Happy Monday Mamas!!
Okay okay okay… Some days I find me asking myself, Am I a lazy mom?
Maybe I have been feeling this way since I have just now gotten over my cold that I have had for FIVE weeks.. yes five. Due to lack of sleep and a little grumpiness, but I have felt a little laziness overcoming me!
Now let me explain.
Some days I just would rather not deal 🙂 Can you feel me?
For example I usually put Edison down for one nap in his crib each day. Usually in the morning when he is most tired and easiest to put down. But come nap #2 if we are not going out and about that day I find myself just loading up in the car to go for a 30 minute drive. I turn on a podcast, go get a Starbucks and just drive around until little mister falls asleep. Because 9 out of 10 times he does!! I feel that it is also time for me to just relax, clear my thoughts, chat to friends or family on time, or feel motivated after some podcasts. But am I being lazy for doing this kind of a lot?
Maybe once or twice a week?
After driving around for 30 minutes I come back home and leave him in the car, parked in the shade with the windows down and trunk open. I leave my house door open and listen for him to wake up. He usually will sleep for another 10-30 minutes.
(I never leave him when it is hot outside)
Another example is early in the morning or fussy times throughout the day.
Edison could nurse at any moment. So yes I plop out the boob and nurse him, more like comfort feeding. But it always solves the problem, no more fussiness. In the mornings I get to keep sleeping because I nurse him on my side instead of just waking up to play with him an extra hour throughout the day. Am I being lazy?
I totally used to go to the starbucks drive thru to get out of the house for a bit and not feel like i have to entertain the kids a minute longer. I don’t have that luxury right now as my three month old hates the car and every car ride past 15 minutes becomes a cry fest that stresses me to my core. I used to nap with my first because she would sleep so much longer. I am realizing, now that we have four, my lazy mom opportunities are all but disappearing. Enjoy it while you can!
I am so happy I am not the only one!
I love hearing that you as well are like me. I can see your point where the lazy mom opportunities start to disappear after having more kids. More kids means a busier mom! I guess I will enjoy it while it lasts
Mama you are doing the best you can. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are a great mom.
Oh you’re the best! Thank you! I appreciate it
I do need to be a little nicer to myself. But I feel it’s hard being a mom right 🙂
Lazy? Or just efficient?! 😘 We all do these types of things. And if you don’t, well then you are super mom! Sometimes just to have a little something to yourself like a Starbucks and a podcast keeps you from feeling like a tired and stretched thin person. Don’t think too hard on it! From what it appears, you are anything but lazy! Xo
Ha yes!! I like how you put it!
I am so glad to know that I am not the only one who feels this way. I agree, it always amazes me how much better I feel too after the 30 minute drive while tuning out and listening to a podcast!
I always resort to the boob when my lil guy is fussy! I’m kind of scared when it will be time to wean and I can’t resort to that anymore. I feel super lazy when I watch him play but don’t engage with him. Sometimes I let him play on his play mat and I just lie down and watch him!
ahhhhh me too!! It actually does terrify me a little bit because I will start to quit nursing once he turns a year, so in two months! I don’t know what I am going to do without my boobs in the middle of the night, when I don’t want to deal, or in the mornings, or like you said when he is fussy!!! Ha I seriously love reading this so much. Because I am just like you. I will sit down to relax to and just watch him play without engaging as well! But I think that is totally fine!
Hang in there with me mama!!
Oh girl. I’ve literally done both of those SO MANY Times. On days when I’m just too tired the car & Starbucks is a life saver. I’d say now with my son I have more to keep myself busy but with my first I was more “bored” at home and when she was older I had to get out of the house with her. I always feel “ashamed” because I’m not a good stay a home mom, some just aren’t cut out for it and I’ve come to accept that! We are all raising beautiful humans and need to give ourselves grace daily! Great post mama! 🙂
This brings me so much relief!! Honestly!
I love that you mentioned everything above. It truly is so helpful. And yes, I feel you, I am not the best at home mom some days. I get lazy and feel that I don’t engage with him when he is playing! I just will sit there and watch him play! But I agree, sometimes that is fine!
I must be lazy too 🙂 I definitely do a lot of comfort nursing especially when she wakes up and I’m not quite ready to get out of bed. Some days I am just trying to survive
haaha anything to survive right!! So glad I am not the only one. This really brings me so much comfort hearing this!